What are you focusing on?

No, REALLY, what are you focusing on??!

Try this little exercise: Think of a couple of areas in your life in which you have goals and/or ideally you wish some improvements were made… Perhaps your job, the state of your home (I mean its organizational appearance as opposed to the area of the country you live in – but either, if a problem, will do), maybe how much fun & recreation you are getting these days, your health, your social life/personal relationships, money, money, money, finances, money…

Now, for each one of those areas that you’d like to improve a bit, what is the FIRST image that pops to mind when you think of it?

Be really honest here – it is a matter of life and death to your true desires! ...WHY does that aspect of life need improving?

If you are like most people, myself included, the chances are that the VERY FIRST image that comes to mind when you think of those areas (on the subjects that need some improvement) is what is wrong with them, or, what you DO NOT have.

• When I think of my house, the FIRST thought that comes to mind is that it is a mess…
• When I think of money, my mind instantly races to the bills that need to be paid…
• When I think of my body/health, I can just feel the little roll over the top of my jeans and my sore back…

…And I am not alone! I have many a friend, who, when asked about his or her love life, will almost instantaneously reply that there isn’t one before I have even finished the question!

THAT is what you are focusing on! (And, THAT is what you are creating more of!)

The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like, and that what we think about expands. If you have seen The Secret, you have heard the expression that "where attention goes, energy flows". Well, those pictures, images and feelings that flash across your mind when you think of a subject ARE where YOUR ATTENTION is going! …THAT is what you are focusing on, and, consequently, it is what you are getting more of in your life. Bummer.

The antidote is to start to form pictures in your mind of what you DO WANT in those life areas… Each time you catch yourself snapping to the depression inducing woes of what is wrong, say to yourself: “That is not my reality! My reality is ______” and form a vision of what it might look like if it already WAS they way you DO WANT it to be!

• Envision what your house would look like if it were neat and organized…
• Picture your “accounts payable” box as empty and a lovely sum on your bank statement…
• Imagine what it would feel like for your clothes to be loose, and to be totally healthy…
• Compose an image in your mind of being with that special someone and filled with joy…

It’s easier said than done, I know. But it has GOT to be better than spending the kind of time I have been spending picturing (focusing on) exactly what I don’t want and expecting the opposite of that to suddenly just appear!

...I'll let you know when my house is clean.

Nothing is more important than that I FEEL GOOD!

"Nothing is more important than that I feel good!"

This is a quote you have no doubt heard if you have listened to any of the Abraham-Hicks recordings or been to any of their events. But, even if you have not, it is an excellent quote to commit to memory and say often!

In terms of the Law of Attraction, there is NOTHING that is more important than FEELING GOOD!!!

In a nutshell, there are four reasons for this:
1) The deeper longing underneath almost every goal, wish, dream, desire or wanting is usually happiness, joy, fulfillment, satisfaction, wellness, peace - to feel better than you did before - to FEEL GOOD!
2) What you think about expands... When you feel good you are simultaneously attracting more of what your inner self (true self, higher wisdom, heart of hearts) wants for yourself! Even if you are not feeling good "because" you are making progress on whichever goal is foremost in your mind - just feeling good is making ALL of YOUR wishes and desires manifest more quickly for you! This is a part of the Law of Allowing - when you FEEL GOOD you are ALLOWING your desires to manifest FOR you!
3) Even if you do not know why you may not be feeling that hot, simply stating the desire "I want to feel good! Nothing is more important than that I feel good!" will begin to bring your attention to that which can make you feel better and better, and begin to raise your vibration.
4) Feeling good JUST FEELS GOOD!!!

So, go out there and FEEL GOOD today! Look for reasons to FEEL GOOD! Try to find things to FEEL GOOD about, and more GOOD will find you! (And, best of all, when you are FEELING GOOD, the particular good that you like best of all is the GOOD you are attracting more of!

FEEL GOOD and prosper!

Swinging through the goal

In sports, golf in particular, we are taught by our coaches to "swing through the ball". By thinking of a full golf swing as going both through and beyond the ball, we can maximize the power generated through momentum to propel the ball as far as possible.

The same principle applies to attracting our goals/wishes/desires in life...

We move forward in life most effectively when we "Swing THROUGH the goal"!!

If you are aiming for a particular goal, or in the process of manifesting a desired experience, the Law of Attraction is working with you, behind the scenes, arranging all manner of circumstances, coincidences, and synchronicity on your behalf. The full power of the Universe is striving to support you in your goal by lining-up necessary events and meetings, relationships and occurrences to bring your desired goal about. This is a tremendous force, and with each passing day, it is moving faster and faster in the direction of your thoughts toward the goal.

This is fantastic!! ...That is, until you reach your goal, if you do not have a clearly articulated goal as a follow-up to the primary goal.

The very moment you reach your goal, the force of the Universe is effectively asking you: "Now what?", and if it doesn't have a new, bigger goal to continue using its energy on, it will dissipate in a smoldering heap. The creative power you have at your disposal, in ordering the power of the Universe to work for you, is a tremendous force - it takes a tremendous amount of momentum to get it going, and once it is working for you, it takes minimal energy to KEEP it going in that direction. But it needs to know what to work on next...

The way to keep it going in the right direction is to always have a follow-up goal, a bigger goal, and an even bigger goal after that, so it keeps working for you even when you think you've made it - to "swing THROUGH the goal"!

What is your most desired short-term goal right now?
What might it feel like when that goal is achieved?
When that first goal is a reality, what is something you will want after that?
Then what might you want?

Take out a piece of paper, or a notebook or journal and write down a brief answer to each of these questions. Then, continue to think about not only what you want right now, but what you think you will want after that - a month from now, 6 months from now, a year... Think about each goal you have as a step on the path to something even bigger or more magnificent, and you will also be maximizing the power of the Universe generated through momentum to propel your dreams as far as possible.

Start BEING it NOW!

I just heard from a friend of mine who FINALLY booked a co-starring role on a prime time NBC show...

I have been coaching him in his career for quite some time, and for the last few months, I had been asking him what would be different when he finally "made it"?

The one point that came up again and again (other than to simply focus all of his attention on the ONE career aspiration of acting rather than scatter his energy with multiple career possibilities) was that he needed to be a member of SAG. He had almost every excuse in the book for why he wasn't yet a member, even though he finally became eligible well over a year ago. "...It's too expensive! ...I can't afford it until I book a big job! ...I might not get as many auditions if I am limited to SAG auditions! ...What if I join, and then never book anything? ...If a director really wants me, but needs me to be SAG, then I'll join!" And on, and on, and on...

I tried to explain to him that FOR HIM joining SAG was going to have to be a pre-requisite to his success, rather than something he would do after said success! Because the SAG membership was so important to him, in order to ATTRACT "the holy grail" of his goal (the SAG membership), he was going to have to start BEING it (a SAG actor) BEFORE it could find him. In other words, he had to take the leap of faith and assert to the Universe that he believed in his own heart that he was ALREADY a SAG caliber actor, and join, on his own, before the Universe could reward him with the benefits of that membership. ...He had to BE a member in his OWN belief system (and for him that meant taking the leap of faith and paying for the membership himself for it to be official) before the Universe could then say "YES! You are a SAG actor, and now you will receive SAG parts!"

Who or what are you waiting to anoint you as "ready and qualified" to BE the person you want to be or to be having the experience you want to have?

What can you do to "take a leap of faith" and start BEING it NOW?

Ask for it ONCE, then just focus on why...

When you continually ask for a thing, or pray for a new experience/situation repeatedly, the effect is actually contributing to its NOT being manifested yet...

Repeated asking indicates a lack of faith - the message you are sending out to the Universe is: "It's not here yet... Where is it? It's not here!!!" ...And that is precisely the effect which is created - the experience/situation you seek is NOT being manifested.

The solution is to ask ONCE. Clearly write out, affirm, visualize, and/or speak your intended outcome ONE TIME, and let it go (knowing that it MUST now manifest).

After that, if you feel you absolutely must be doing something to "help it along", then concentrate on WHY you want it, and list the reasons that you are aware of that you believe it IS on its way to you now.

You can list the reasons why you want that new experience or situation again and again, over and over, all day long, every day, until the cows come home and it will be continually adding energy to your manifestation - affirming to the Universe that you DO know it's coming and that you are exceptionally excited about it!

Money is a by-product, not a goal...

What if money were just a by-product of doing what you love?

What if the ONLY way to get money was to BE DOING what you loved, and the more you loved it, the more money you got??!

What if that REALLY is how it works? What would YOU do? How would you "spend" your time?

I say that is EXACTLY how it really works!!!

Ask people what they want, and most of them will say "more money". ...They want it to pay bills, buy more stuff, take a trip, get a new car, to quit that stinkin' job, whatever.

But, in actual fact, money is not what they REALLY want - the money is just a means to an end. What they REALLY want is what they believe the money will do for them (or free them from...) What they REALLY want is the security of knowing that the bills are all paid and there is more where that came from, the ease or entertainment that the latest gadget can bring, the relaxation of time away from worry, better health, more joy, fun, warmth, comfort, beauty, freedom, or even just permission to live the life they have always wanted! (...and usually a combination of all of the above!)

The trick is that THAT is EXACTLY how money is manifested - by focusing on that which you want the money FOR!!!

Then, DO THAT thing!! Think about what the money would do for you (or allow you to do) and DO THAT!!! Take any action you can toward that thing as your goal rather than waiting for the money before you do it, do something, ANYTHING! Start doing anything you can to go in the direction of what the REAL goal is NOW!

What do I want a whole heap of money for? To pay-back any money I owe to anyone, to landscape the little tiny patch of soil I call my front yard, to hire a professional organizer to help me clean, to take some time off to write a book... How can I start doing these things, or at least take steps toward having the experience I want for my life right now? I bet you can think of many possible steps I could take! ..I can pay-back just one person, I can plant one plant a week, I can clean out one drawer, I can write for 15 minutes a day - and that is just a few things! If I were to do any of these regularly, I would eventually have what I wanted even without extra money. But my REAL message here is that as soon as you START taking action to make the experiences you seek a reality, you are simultaneously manifesting the money at the same time! When you are "spending" your time doing something you value, and taking action toward your goal, or doing something you love - you ARE attracting more money!

The truth is you are not poor - you have everything you need right now! You just need to start to take action based on the BELIEF that you do...

What if the ONLY way to get money was to BE DOING what you loved, and the more you loved it, the more money you got??!

What would you be doing?

As best you can - start doing THAT now.

Life starts now!

It doesn't matter how old you are, but life starts NOW!

I am visiting a friend right now, who is turning 40 tomorrow, and I am not far behind her. We were talking about all the friends we have in common who are still "the same" no matter how old they are getting, how many birthdays come and go...

It made me start to think about when they are going to decide to start taking action and make their lives what they WANT them to be? When are they going to DO SOMETHING to make life the experience I KNOW that have always wished it would be?!

Now's the time. It doesn't get any easier to turn your life around the older you get - it gets harder! With every passing day passing the time in your life, waiting until tomorrow to really GO FOR IT and put your energy into what you have always wanted to have, do, or be, you get more and more entrenched in how it has always been...

What do you really wish your life was about right now?

I suggest you start now.